Coaching TopicsThese are some of the many ways in which I help my clients.
Solving Inner Conflicts
“Your worst battle is between what you know and what you feel.”
We always have inner conflicts between different parts of us. On one hand you think something is good, but on the other hand you think it’s not. Or you want something, but at the same time you don’t. If a part of you wins, the other looses and vice versa. So no matter what you end up choosing, you will always loose.
This creates much distress; it drains your time and energy.
Like in any negotiation, two or more parts can only be happy if their message and their goals are considered and addressed. Inner conflicts imply two ore more parts of yourself, so we basically make those parts of you communicate so that you can mediate a solution that satisfies everyone including You, the owner of those smaller parts.
We help you make conscious what is usually unconscious for you. We then help you get to know and understand these parts of you that are in conflict. Then we guide you into a process of aligning these parts and finding ecological solutions that stop the conflict, therefore creating inner congruence. This allows you to gain clarity, make decisions and act on it.
The problem: One person we once helped was facing a terrible situation. For some reason she had horrible feelings towards her mother, even though she didn’t know why. Every time they talked she would be really mean to her mother and then regret it and feel bad about it. This made her extremely sad.
The solution: A skillful NLP Coach has the tools to decipher the way someone processes internally a conflict. In her case, the part that was making her mean to her mother was very well hidden, but we helped her externalize it symbolically, which gave her the opportunity to gain some distance and understand it. Once that was accomplished, we were able to teach that part of her how it was creating more problems than good with its behaviors. We helped her transform that part into something more congruent, more in line with who she was and what she wanted.
The result: Immediately, the inner conflict was dissolved. She felt like a weight was lifted from her shoulders and was in peace for the fist time in months. She was then able to meet with her mother again and get their relationship back to where it was before, which made her really happy.
I felt nummed about some feelings I couldn’t explain to myself and I couldn’t figure out what the actual problem was. In the most beautiful way Juan guided me trough a magical process of self-realization. It was a great experience.